By The KnotYou should definitely take your time celebrating your engagement—but when you’re ready to officially start planning, here’s how to dive in.Once the initial shock of being engaged wears off (and you take a second to peel your eyes away from the new ring on your finger!), you’ll need to start making decisions. Here are the 11 most important things you need to do to really kick off your wedding planning.Set a TimetableThe minute you get engaged, everyone will be asking for your wedding date. But in reality, you won’t be able to set an exact date until other major decisions—like choosing (and booking) your venue—are made. So first, focus on determining a range of dates that’ll work for you. The average engagement lasts 15 months, but also think about what season you’d prefer, any major holidays or family events you’d like to avoid conflicting with, and how long you predict you’ll need to plan. Continue reading
by Stephanie HallettIt’s the night before your wedding and you’re sitting down for one last meal with your nearest and dearest before the big day. You already know that a rehearsal dinner can be casual or formal, a dinner, lunch, or even breakfast, and that it’s a chance for you to give thank-you gifts to the members of your wedding party and spend more intimate time with your loved ones. But do you know who’s allowed to give a toast? The short answer is, basically everyone.The list of toasts to be given at your wedding should be short—you don’t want to cut into that dance floor time! — not to mention the toasts themselves should be kept to a maximum time of three minutes. But the rehearsal dinner offers a chance for anyone to speak and share a story, since the setting is more relaxed. Here’s a list of possible rehearsal dinner speakers — consider it, and revise according to your own needs and desires. Continue reading
by Lauren RodrigueThere are two types of wedding party attendants out there. There’s the type who will think of your wedding as a symbolic culmination of your and your partner’s love and devotion to one another, and a dramatic step forward into a new phase of your relationship, and then there’s the type who will think of your wedding as a chance to get totally insanely wasted! It’s not that those in the former camp won’t let loose on your big day, or those in the latter camp aren’t super psyched on you and your soon-to-be spouse’s love—it’s just that some bridesmaids and groomsmen really like to get totally insanely wasted. Continue reading
by Lindsay Pietroluongo
You’ve been asked to make a speech at a wedding and you want keep things funny, not sappy. The good news is that you don’t have to be Kristen Wiig or Chris Rock to give a toast that’s hilarious. Here’s how to write a wedding speech that will get your audience laughing aloud.
Need to find some inspiration? Brainstorm ideas while watching your favorite sitcom or funny movie, or listening to a stand-up comic. You don’t want to copy the jokes you hear word for word, but they may spark your own creativity. While it’s tempting to steal a great punch line, remember that you’ll get a better response from a joke that’s original.
Make it quick
Wedding speeches only have to be two or three minutes long. If you go any longer, you’ll start to lose people’s attention, causing your humor to land flat. Continue reading
Some brides-to-be might find it hard to think beyond the intense planning that a wedding requires. But beyond the pomp and circumstance of the big day, it’s important to think ahead to mergers — not the corporate kind, but the merging of styles and décor to set up a home the bride and groom will both love.Forget Mars and Venus. Men are from the planet of mismatched furniture and floor coverings, while women accessorize their home with as much care and finesse as they do their wardrobes. Ideally, decorating a first home together begins with the furniture and accessories near and dear to both the bride and groom.But if a bride-to-be can’t live with her fiancé’s 1970s thrift store coffee table and orange bean bag chair, chances are he won’t be thrilled with her antique oak hope chest and ornately carved sleigh bed. Can these two conflicting schemes co-exist after the couple has crossed the threshold? Continue reading
There are a few big purchases in life that you really don’t want to mess up — a first house, a health care plan, a new car, and especially, the engagement ring for your loved one.According to The Knot, a popular wedding inspiration magazine and planning website, the decision is so important it takes consumers more than three months to find the perfect ring, and the average cost is $5,000.If you’re starting to sweat under the pressure, here’s a step-by-step guide to make your decision easier:
- Determine the Metal
* Platinum is a naturally white metal, meaning it will never fade, change color, or need to be re-dipped or re-plated.* White gold, on the other hand, is a created by adding an alloy mix to yellow gold. As the white color fades, the ring will need to be re-dipped a few times each year. Continue reading
- Vision!It helps to figure out everything you’re dreaming of for your wedding day. Do you visualize a formal affair with a sit down dinner or something more social like unique food stations? Every vision will require a different layout.
- Location, Location, Location!Your wedding might be held at your home or at a venue, so knowing as much information about the location is a great start when planning your wedding. Where are the closest hotels? What is the plan for parking? Are there local ordinances that will effect a tented wedding?
- Temperature!You want your guests to be comfortable! The weather can vary depending on what month, or even what time of day, you’re getting married. A wedding mid-summer may be super warm, so be sure to rent fans to keep your guests cool! If your wedding is during cooler months, you’ll definitely want to have your guests be cozy. Renting a heater can warm the tent, and your guests, right up!
- Be an Early Bird!When booking a tent, it is best to do it sooner rather than later!
- Have a Rain Plan!While we hate saying the “R” word but…having a rain plan is the best way to keep your special day completely worry-free so that your guests, tables, florals, and décor can all be kept safe and dry from any rain storms that may roll through! If indoor spaces aren’t an option you could consider a rain plan conditional tent rental.
- Finding the Perfect Flooring!There are so many choices when it comes to flooring! If your crowd will tend to be more subdued maybe you want just a small dance floor, if your family is known for their dancing “skills” then maybe you’ll want a larger floor to give Uncle Joe plenty of room to do his signature moves. If you’re worried that grass + high heels = bad news, you might want to consider a full floor for your tent.
- Reserving the Right Tent!A tent that is too small can impact the overall flow of your wedding, and some factors, such as the amount of people attending or, if you’re having a plated meal or a buffet, contribute to the size tent that you’ll be needing. It helps to talk through all these things with your tent company to make sure everything will have a place in the tent for your wedding day.
- Shine Bright!Lighting is an easy way to add a dramatic touch to your wedding. Be sure to ask us about the lighting options available to you!
- Sound Check!If you’re having a DJ or a Band play at your wedding, be sure to do a sound check so that it can be heard throughout the tent. Some towns have requirements on how loud the music can be or how late it can be played until, so be sure to find out that information and share it with your entertainment beforehand!
We buy almost everything online, nowadays, from clothes to accessories, even groceries and electronics. That’s why some people are even browsing diamond rings online in hopes of finding the perfect engagement ring, at the perfect price.
So if you’re committed to ditching store hopping for online browsing, here are 6 things to know before you press the buy now button on an engagement ring you found online.
- Do Your Research
Just like you would for a brick and mortar store, be sure to do your research on the online store. Read reviews from past customers and search credible sources to find out more about them. Continue reading
When you’re engaged and jumping on the wedding planning train, advice will suddenly start to surround you. Every article you read online will be about wedding dos and don’ts and every friend and family member will try to feed you tips and tricks that they think you absolutely need to hear before it’s your turn to walk down the aisle. So when all of this advice is coming into your life, sometimes unwarranted, it’s important to recognize what advice is actually helpful and what advice should be, well, kicked to the curb. Want to know to spot terrible advice? Well, here are seven wedding planning tips you should 100% avoid. Continue reading
The couples on the show Married at First Sight have a lot of work to do to make their relationships succeed. Like, say, learning each other’s last names and whether or not they’re actually attracted to each other. As the title suggests, the participants agree to marry whomever a crew of relationship experts set them up, and at the end of six weeks of living together, they have to decide whether or not to stay together.
One of those relationship experts, Rachel DeAlto, doesn’t just advise married pairs with such extreme circumstances. In her career, she’s met, coached, and even hypnotized couples to help them work through their issues. With so many of those brutal conversations under her belt, she shares a few universal truths about what needs to be Marie Kondo-ed out of your marriage if it’s ever going to work.
“The biggest thing that I hear [in sessions] is tidiness, not having the same style of picking up after yourself or cleaning the house,” DeAlto says. Yes, there are couples out there who are dedicating therapy sessions to arguing about who takes out the trash! It sounds silly, but of course, having that fight regularly is truly frustrating. “The advice that stand out the most is the most cliched: don’t sweat the small stuff. That’s on point when it comes to marriage,” she says.
- GETTING ALONG WITH EVERY MEMBER OF EACH OTHER’S FAMILY
Yes, it can be painful to know that two of your favorite people on Earth, whom you love more than anything, would prefer not to hang out with each other. “This thing may seem big to you, but it doesn’t play out in the relationship in the long term,” DeAlto says. “It’s okay if they don’t get along.” You don’t need to force your husband and sister to be buddies-you just have to maintain your relationships with each of them, and let them be themselves.
- PAST RELATIONSHIP PAIN
The ghosts of relationship past have a way of hanging out in your marital home. “You need to let go of you past, period,” she says. “Get past expectations that your partner could be similar to an ex.” It’s easier said than done to move on from all those ugly times, which is why DeAlto is such a fan of hypnosis. “It’s a great way to work on getting past relationships, using a lot of visualizations on ways you can move forward.”
- FEAR OF WHAT MAY GO WRONG
Getting married means putting your full faith, finances, and future in another human being, which is a terrifying concept. A focus on past relationships might also mean that you’re terrified of your SO exhibiting traits of behaviors of your exes. “I see that getting in the way a lot, like you’ve been cheated on in the past and now you’re afraid your husband will do it,” DeAlto says. Talk out those fears with your partner to you can both identify when your anxieties are clouding your vision.
- SINGLE SELFISHNESS
Hey, it’s not a bad thing to be focused on yourself when you’re single. Who else is there to consider? “Let go of your selfishness-I say that in a loving way!” DeAlto laughs. “When you’re married, you have to start putting someone’s feeling along with yours. I’m not saying above yours, but along yours. In a marriage, you need to be more empathetic and compassionate than you’ve ever been.
- THE EARLIER VERSION OF YOURSELVES
When you first got together, you and your spouse were likely ultra affectionate, passionate, flirtacious, and that can naturally change as the years pile up. DeAlto is a fan of The Five Love Languages, the popular book that demonstrates the different categorical ways people experience and express their love for each other. “It’s a very simplified understanding of how to make someone feel loved. The problem with them is we use them as an excuse, like ‘He doesn’t get me,'” she explains. “It’s a tool to let someone else know, This is what i need.” If you want some of those early honeymoon-style dates, speak up.
- YOUR IDEA OF A PERFECT MARRIAGE
You might know a couple that seems to have your ideal marriage, but you’re not seeing every part of it all the time. “Understand that there’s an evolution of self that will continue forever,” DeAlto says. “Change isn’t bad as long as you’re changing together. Let go of the thought that things will be stagnant. Who wants to be stagnant?” Nobody.
Alright, who else is ready to go kiss their mate? See DeAlto in action on Married at First Sight, with a new episode this Tuesday night at 8:30pm ET/PT on FYI.