by Heather Lee

Photo: Gia Canali

The wedding toasts are an integral part of the reception, just like the first dance and wedding cake cutting. If you and your groom are figuring out the flow of the reception, you should decide in advance when the toasts will be happening and how they will occur. With just a bit of planning, the toasts and speeches very well might become some of your most treasured wedding memories. But who should you ask to offer a toast at the reception? Our etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

Who usually gives toasts at the wedding reception?

Toasting the newlyweds is one of the most poignant wedding-day moments, a chance for guests to raise a glass to your happiness and good fortune as you embark on a new life together.

Traditionally, the reception toasting order goes as follows:

1. The first toast is customarily given by the best man. Following his toast, the maid of honor (or matron of honor) may offer a toast, too.
2. Next, the bride and groom may offer a toast together, or you can each make individual toasts. Stand side-by-side and take turns speaking—toast each other, then raise a glass to the wedding party, family members, and guests to thank them for sharing this special day with you.
3. The newlyweds’ toasts are followed by their parents. If the bride’s parents are hosting the wedding, they should speak first, toasting the couple as well as the groom’s parents, and then welcoming and thanking guests.