Hello loyal readers today we depart from talking about tent rentals, chair, table and dance floor decisions. We know those problems will be solved when... Read More
Hello loyal readers today we depart from talking about tent rentals, chair, table and dance floor decisions. We know those problems will be solved when we handle your outdoor wedding event or outdoor special events with Exeter Events and Tents. Today we would like your opinion on a story about Bridezillas. We would love your response to this advice by Kim Fusaro columnist for Glamour Weddings and any personal stories you may have.
This bridesmaid is bent out of shape—and I don’t blame her!
Writes Save the Date reader Danielle:
I was recently a bridesmaid for a rude, demanding, thankless bridezilla who drove her bridal party insane for a full year. Now that the wedding’s over, how do I get over the hurt and resentment and go back to the friendship we used to have?
Here are my thoughts:
I don’ know if you can go back to the friendship you used to have—and I don’t know if it’s worth it to try. Even if your friend was 100 percent lovely in the past, she’s shown you she has the capacity to be, in your words, rude, demanding, and thankless. Blech.
If you want to be friends with her despite her nasty side, I think the first thing you need to do is let her know how you feel. I’d ask her to go for coffee—the old “neutral territory” trick—then air your grievances. If you can do so without saying “you,” she’ll probably be less defensive.
For example, “I felt really underappreciated over the past year. I did a lot of wedding-related chores—packaging favors, throwing a bridal shower—and I felt like nothing I did was ever good enough. I feel like I never even heard the words ‘thank you,’ no matter how hard I worked or how much yelling I tolerated.”
In an ideal world, your friend would say, “Wow, I was really obnoxious.” But chances are she’ll get defensive. Be prepared for, “You have NO idea how hard planning a wedding is.” Or, “Every bride gets stressed. You will, too.”
Both statements are true, but I don’t think being a bride is any excuse for being a bitch.
If you get an apology from her, I’d say that’s a start. But after that, if your feelings of resentment crop up every time you get a phone call from her, you might want to take a breather from the friendship for a while. If, after a few months, you really start to miss her give her a call. But if you find yourself enjoying your drama-free lifestyle, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with writing off her friendship entirely.
Ladies, what do you think? Should Danielle suck it up and act like everything’s back to normal? Should she demand an apology? Or do brides have a license to be bitchy while they’re wedding planning?